where did i go wrong?

8 CommentsI have realized that I have become stagnant. Or rather, my mind, my intellect, whatever you want to call it.

As a child, I was considered borderline brilliant by my teachers and parents. I was placed in gifted classes at the age of 7, and remained in them through high school. I never studied, but remained an honor student until graduation, and if I once actually applied myself to my studies, I could have gone all the way.
I won spelling bees, math competitions, and academic awards, and floated through school quite easily. I took advanced placement Calculus 2 years in a row, because I could, and because there was no higher level math I could take.
I scored a 1350 on my SAT's, and knew I could have done better, but didn't care.
High school proved to be much more competitive among my peers, so my lack of study habits kept me from being the best. I cared only about my extra-curricular activities, and as long as I was making straight A's, my parents didn't pester me to study more.
College was the same. I went to the University of Houston, an average university, simply because I didn't apply in time to the larger ones all my friends went to… UT, A&M, Tech. Again, I didn't care… only my social life and my passions interested me. Who needs an education when you have drill team?
I had placed out of most basic core courses before I even reached college, so I was left to take such distinguished courses as stage movement and the history of dance. Making the most of my college career, obviously.

Too much freedom, years of weak study habits and zero scholastic competitiveness kept me from acquiring that degree. I went to school full-time for 6 years, and all I gained was a lot of fuzzy fraternity party memories, seats on every event board, and a dance squad outfit that is too small for me now.

I love my life, I loved the activities I took part in and the friends I made while doing so, but that doesn't make me feel like any less of a failure.
I think about what I could have been if I had pushed myself more academically. I could have my master's now, or be a doctor, or have gone into politics. I know that intellectually I am capable of any one of those things, and then some, but I lack the drive. Why? What pushes people to reach the top? Where do they find that ambition?

I am inherently lazy, so I know I can attribute much of my attitude to that lame characteristic. But I seem to be drawn to uneducational and empty things in life… reality tv, celebrity gossip, puff paint. Oh, what I can accomplish with puff paint, you'd be shocked.

I ask myself all the time, when did I get dumb? I have referred to myself as a smart person my entire life, but am coming to the conclusion that that is a false description, and I must remove it from my “about me” paragraphs. Am I dumb because I never take the time to further my knowledge (nor seem to care to)? Am I dumb because I often lack common sense (which most people chalk up to being blonde)? Or am I dumb, because I am just DUMB?

And even as I'm writing this, I have no desire to pick up an educational book, or take a class, or watch the History Channel. So if I continue on the path I'm on, will all that will be left be a pea-sized brain, one-word sentences, and 2 bags of silicone?

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Kiki

I'm so glad you're back Sarah!!!!! Yay! I could have wrote this post myself, although you are wayyyyyyyyyy smarter than me. I don't even want to mention my SAT score. And hey--what's wrong with celebrity gossip and reality tv? I live for it. Smile

I think we all get stuck in ruts where we feel like we're not doing what we thought we'd be. (If that makes sense) I'm in one right now actually. We pull ourselves out and move on and then figure out what it is that we need to do.

2/18/2009 11:09:47 AM #

Kiki

Spicy Vixen

I like the saying, 'don't worry so much about making a living, make a life. And besides, some people are academically intelligent, others are intellegent in life experiences. Selective intelligence. Jessica Simpson being the exception. She's just silly.

2/18/2009 11:09:47 AM #

Spicy Vixen

Sass

I picked up an educational book yesterday and killed a spider with it - pretty sure i threw it away after that.  

Dumb? No definately not.  I mean, the entire entry was spelled correctly and yew now huw to uze spell chk.  Unlik mee.  

Now back to stuff that really matters.  Did you see Lindsey Lohan went back to black hair and Paris photos from LA Fashion week?

2/18/2009 11:09:47 AM #

Sass

Anonymous

As someone who has known you since the age of six, it made me sad to read this blog.   Not sad at what you have or haven't achieved, but sad at your displeasure with it.  As I read each sentence, I could feel the disappointment and frustration in your voice.  It was almost as if that insecure little girl was coming out again.  I feel I know you well and relate to you in many ways.  We are both people that will strive to succeed when it is necessary (and typically only then).  I have no doubt that you will take that next "educational" step, whatever that might be, when there is a place in your life that requires it.  Like you said, and like I have always known, you are an extremely intelligent person who will continue to achieve great things and amaze those around you.  Don't doubt yourself!  As for now, keep asking the difficult questions and try not to be too hard on yourself.  Trust me … the outside world is a big enough critic without us helping it along.   Love ya - Rebecca

2/18/2009 11:09:47 AM #

Anonymous

-J

I wouldn't worry about it.  I'm sure you still have quite an aptitude for learning and in processing and applying information quickly.  Just because you don't feel the desire to do so doesn't make you dumb.  The fact that you even think about it at all must mean the hamster is still kicking up there.

2/18/2009 11:09:47 AM #

-J

Network Geek

"Diferently abled"!  That was the phrase I was looking for the other day.  It's not that you're "dumb" or not "smart" or not interested enough in "smart" things.  You're just differently abled.
(Finally, a use for PC language I learned in school!)

2/18/2009 11:09:47 AM #

Network Geek

Fefa

Smart does not equal specific, generic, milestones set in (I don't know whose) academic guidelines.  Some folks enjoy doing medical stuff, so they become doctors. Some enjoy fashion, and so they become designers. And some people enjoy everything; part school education, part social life, part shopper, part whatever. Not filling some cliche definition of what equals smart does not make you dumb. It makes you who you are; someone who fulfills everything she enjoys and cares about 100% to such an extent she can honestly say "I love my life", and is loved in return for all she is. In my book, living your life by your own standards is the smartest way to live.

2/18/2009 11:09:47 AM #

Fefa

Network Geek

Hey, two bags of silicone?  You're ahead of the game, then, 'cause those will last forever.  What does a dumb man have?  

Seriously, you're not "dumb", just not classically brainy.  Besides, you're funny, too. I bet you know all about the intricate social interactions on those reality tv things.  It's complicated stuff!  Besides, someone who was really dumb wouldn't be smart enough to question her decisions, would she?

2/18/2009 11:09:47 AM #

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